At precisely 12 noon I heard this rather timid “hello Dr. Radha” on my door.
Rapt in a reverie after my last patient as to what could I cook today for impromptu dinner guests tonight I looked up to see Parul , all of 26 confident years old.
As we got talking she mentioned she heard of Zarah clinic through friends and that she was looking for LASER HAIR REMOVAL . “Upper lip?” I questioned …it being the most common amongst young girls .
‘No ‘ she said, “actually under arms”,
And ‘full bikini’
and ‘lower legs’
Oh …She’s getting married…I thought ….anyways we continued to set appointments and discuss do’s and don’ts around the treatment.
I set up my baby ZARAH MEDICAL and COSMETIC SKIN CLINIC 11 years ago, when cosmetic enhancements were somewhat an exclusive territory. Now, that equation has changed and LOOKING GOOD ,therefore FEELING GOOD…is de rigueur.
Right from selecting the unaffordable state-of-the-art EQUIPMENT , to sketching the Zarah LOGO, to framing the MISSION STATEMENT in all sincerity or selecting professional STAFF and the soft MUSIC and varieties of GREEN TEA as patients undergo various treatments were thought processes that belonged to me.
I wanted Zarah to be a comfortable place people walk into and walk out of …with poise and confidence!
After 2 long sessions with Parul I realized to my total amazement, shock and awe that the girl was NOT getting married, in fact she NEVER would !
She was undergoing complete laser hair removal because she had chosen to become a JAIN MONK!
Oh Lordie No!!
Instantly I tried talking her out of this idea but No ..
She was set ! THIS was her chosen life path!
Life of a pious mendicant???
I looked at her, mesmerized as she narrated how that once she had attained DIKSHA she would NOT be able to shower, personal hygiene would have to be compromised, that she would live life as a wanderer eschewing not only the material world but also all emotions.. the VOW of Nonpossesssion or APARIGRAHA!
From being the FASHIONISTA who partied every weekend wearing her ‘Pradas ‘to the glitziest of events,she was to be catapulted into a life where her focus was PRAYER.
She would live life as the perfect Ascetic, practise nonviolence and detachment with only her white simple robes , a bowl and broom , maybe a few religious texts… as her only worldly possessions .
All this she CHOSE ….Of her own FREE WILL!
WHAT A GIRL….
I mused …..as I adjusted my light blue linen sari in a small mirror with a black wrought iron frame at the far corner of my room at the clinic. Something you need to know about me – I love life and I love sarees. Every day of my life is only that much wee bit happier because I can wear a beautiful sari with some exciting jewellery to the clinic!
Today’s sari of the day is a a very light powder blue linen gifted to me by my best friend Sangeeta who shops online especially when she is unwell!
The jewellery I picked up from a cute little shop in Kochi .My blouses never ever, ever belong to the sari itself and this one with long sleeves I picked up at Chandralok.
As I sign off I wonder about Parul ..
Where would she be ?
..walking barefoot , learning , assimilating
Not a roof over her head …a free soul!
Wherever you are .. Parul .. hope you are just fine!
Here’s me expressing ..for lack of a better word…
Solidarity….. even if just for a day !
Guess each one’s journey of life is different.
Have a great day folks!
More in my next post of another interesting patient of mine!
Name of patient changed to protect identity .
Parul looked beautiful, dressed in bridal finery on the day of her INITIATION procession.
Once she became a SADHAVI .. she RENOUNCED not only all her worldly possessions , giving them away in charity but EVEN HER NAME !
Last I heard of her .. she was perfectly happy and in equanimity !👍
21 thoughts on “Zarah Diaries…..The most INTERESTING PEOPLE I don’t need to even seek, they just walk right into Zarah Clinic!”
Wow – to be able to walk away from it all is the ultimate – but that was her calling.
Dear Radha – you please stick to helping your patients feel better about themselves, keep the sari industry going and do keep writing so beautifully. Thank you
Hahaha.. Shirin you are just tooo funny!
That was a very touching thing ! Pulled some strings! After this Sridevi episode especially!
But you write so well ! Hidden talents !
And your lovely sarees and jewelry- something to die for !
Keep the good things going ! 😘
Thankyou so much Priti !
Yes… it touched / bothered me alright!!
Thanks Radha for this insight. I hope Parul wherever she is ….is happy with her decision taken at such a young age…we are still swimming in this mooh maya world.
U look good in anything u wear🤗💕
Yes .. it’s a very do or die decision..
Very few would take it!
Radha loved the write up .May Parul attain what she seeks. Each one to his own.We love you with your bohemian art of dressing and we want you to be a part of us worldly fellow humans enjoying and celebrating every moment of our life..keep posting.
Thankyou Pinky !
Yes..unlikely to have the steadfastness of monks…!
In this life … never!
Yes .. it is .. requires a real dedication of a very different sort
So well written
Mind is such a complex thing
Just keep thinking about these traits where they renounce everything and be happy….
Yes indeed !
Unlikely to emulate!
Thankyou so much Pravin
Mom! You are truly a star! Love you!! 😘😘😘
Haha.., …and you ….are the twinkle in my eye!!
Love you too!
I am beginning to envy you and your work….you can help so many people….great DR.sahiba
So cute !
Loved that you read!
Let me start with Congratulating you on completion of Eleven Years of ZARAH.🏆🎖with many more to come.
What a fabulously written piece of literature…….. got me rather emotional 😭 .I think u should think of compiling such masterpieces together to form a collection .
Do keep adorning the gorgeous sarrees and jewellery for a person like u can only justify their existence .There are many facets to life but should adopt only what we are good at..👍
Wow… Thankyou Ranajit !
On all counts!
How time flies …
Just the other day we were fresh out of college ..full of enthusiasm , full of dreams !
Now many years ahead ….
we are wiser , perhaps a tad subdued , yet still discovering ourselves !
Thankyou for being so generous with your words.. … feel encouraged to write even more …
Now don’t say .. oh no 🤦♂️!!!